After having lived in the US for 14 years spread across three states(Texas, New York and Michigan) I have always been asked this question “Why did we return to India?” and have always been amused by the question. Recently, one of my friend’s husband posted about it which tickled me into answering the same question in my personal blog post as well! 🙂 As he correctly noted – nobody ever asks you “Why are you going to the US?” but we are always asked the question when we are back.(why, I wonder)
While most of us vow to always return back after a few years abroad(whether US, UK or any other country) it is but difficult to say who will actually return back and who will not. There are variety of reasons for people to not return:
- Love the meticulous way and organized way in every facet of life(from getting the driver’s license, to get getting admission for kids in schools)
- No corruption at all(at least in the areas where we transact our day to day life)
- Perfect well laid roads and highways(we don’t see people digging up newly laid roads the very next day!!)
- Always think of making ‘X’ amount of money and coming back
- Just got used to the Western system and might find it difficult to re-adjust back to Indian system(for parents and children)
- Scared of living together with family at a short distance 😉 (this is probably true for most families – most go abroad in their 20s and have no clue how family relationships work when they return in their 40s – we would rather watch the happenings from a distance!! :))
- Wondering how they will adjust to a new work life in the Indian sub continent
- There are still others, who are not able to come back because of medical conditions as they age in a foreign country
- When one spouse agrees to go back and the other doesn’t – it is better to stay back after all….
- Those who have built a good family network there(they have their brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, parents, in-laws and everybody else there – they wonder who is there in India to see?!! :))
- Those who are always thinking that they will return the “next year”!! 🙂
- Those who have never thought that way at all…
- And finally, those who do not want to come back at all!
And I am sure there are several other reasons that I have not listed as well…
The reason we decided to return back to India:
IT IS INDIA!! 🙂
Elaborately though, as the first year of our marriage gave way to successive years and the American life of luxury enveloped us, there was a small but certain hole that was certainly forming in our lives. It was not very evident in the initial years(we were very excited initially like everybody else 🙂 – new country, new life, new customs, new traditions) but the hole grew by leaps and bounds as the kids started growing up.
The social life for most of us, Indians in the US is always a very narrow circle – there are a group of 10 or so families who stay tightly knit and celebrate Diwali, Thanksgiving, Christmas and so on. Things that we take for granted in India like stepping out and meeting your neighbours(I have written about this already?! :)) , authentic way to celebrate festivals in India was sorely missed. I missed the color and vibrancy and buzzing life of India.
There is also a slow and but sure communication gap that occurs in everyone’s life(in spite of all social media channels) when staying abroad for a prolonged period of time.
These reasons might look small as I write it but it can envelop your life as you live alone and see life in a different way. All these reasons propelled us to return to India for good!
Note: All these reasons are solely mine alone. The bottom line for those wondering whether to return or not depends on you and your circumstances alone! Stay where you are happy!! 🙂