Whew! A decade went by? I am so glad it got over finally!! Don’t get me wrong – it wasn’t all bad except for the beginning…but good to move along right?
So, what did I accomplish this decade? We moved to India after a long US stint(any move is hard but this was especially hard), I completed my Master’s degree after a long gap in education, I learnt to swim, I started writing, I made tons and tons of new friends, had umpteen number of social gatherings, made numerous remote and warm business relationships, did three mini marathons(more like walkathons!! :)) , ate out like there was no tomorrow 🙂 and laughed and laughed…. 🙂 …ALL IN THE PAST DECADE!!
Maybe the thing that really stood out, was trying to complete my Master’s degree with two kids in the past decade…and here goes that story…
Why was it so rough initially?
The initial part of the past decade had nasty surprises in store for me… No, I did not step into motherhood in that decade(I already two young children), nor did I have a new job either….but I had the desire to do something crazy – I wanted a Masters degree !! 🙂 Now, most Indian wives in the US do their Master’s degree just as they arrive in the US… but , I decided to do it when we were planning to move away from the country with 2 small kids !! 😉 (in 2009)
Note: If you don’t entirely know me or a bit of my personal life, here goes… – I lived in the US for 14 years post marriage and returned to India for good. My US-India stories are chronicled in this ebook…do give it a read..
There were always thoughts as to “Why is she doing her Master’s degree now, after 2 children?” and more, but I don’t think I cared much… 🙂 I needed to do it and I started it right away…
It is not easy to be a stay at home mom and do a degree(or any work from home for that matter) The US course work keeps you on your toes all the time. The assignments were quite mind boggling and very, very different from the Indian style of education. I had to complete “this” assignment by 12 a.m. and I had to complete “that” assignment by 12:00 p.m. and so on… there were tests, quizzes, papers and massive projects to be completed. I enjoyed every bit of it and tried to get an ‘A’ in every subject! 🙂 Those ‘A’s are tough to get… 😉 Just a slight slip in one of your assignments, and there…………away went my ‘A’!!
As long as I did one course per semester, things were in control…but once, I did 2 courses per semester – I had to multi-task like a mad mom!! 🙂 ( and with no maid and family help in the US , things do get totally crazy :()
The good thing about my college was that there were many courses which were entirely online and only for some classes I had to meet in person. I drove in the rain and snow for my classes because I really loved it and learnt so much. This was also the time, I discovered a new passion in the subjects that I studied – Information security!! Now, just as a FYI – Information security was a brand new subject even in the US in 2009 and I lapped it up with full gusto!! 🙂
In the middle of one of my semesters, I had a nasty accident for which I had to compulsorily have a foot surgery!! 😦 What did that leave me with? I needed to be in a foot cast for close to 4 weeks and even walking was a chore with those crutches – and driving and travelling distances was next to unthinkable…(and no Uber then)
I had already paid for the courses for that semester and if I had to quit, I would lose all my money(close to 3000$!!) and all my work would go waste too…
So, what happened then? I sat the very next day after the surgery in front of the computer(with cast and crutches) and started doing my assignments and trudged along till the end of November by working on my courses online, when the semester ended. I did have complete support that semester from all my Professors and college! (thanks to every one of them!! :))
So, degree over? Nope – not quite… there were other health concerns as well and it was quite an emotional roller coaster ride for close to 9 months after that.When, things start going hay way when you are close to graduating with just four courses to complete, you are completely at your wits end(and I had already put in close to $15,000 for my coursework till then !!)
All well? Yes, almost…. but we returned to India for good in July 2010 and I still had two more subjects to complete to get my Master’s degree!! (luckily, both were online)
So, did I complete it finally? Yes, I did….. finally in March 2011, I completed all the course work and got my degree!! 🙂 🙂
As you scroll through the story or skim through it, you might or might not be able to realize that there were many points in my degree where it looked very bleak – if I will be able to complete my degree. After all, the common retort might always be
“Why do you need to complete it now?”
But complete it, I had to…and I do have to thank my better half and all my Professors and most importantly the divine power who enabled me to complete it and realize my dream!! 🙂
Rest of the decade:
For the rest of the decade we dove straight into Indian life after having lived away for 14 years. I learnt to drive in Indian traffic conditions, and learnt to manage a geared vehicle after a long time.
It was also a decade in which I tried ethnic Karnataka cuisine (holige, ragi mudde, Maddur vada, Jolada Roti, Mangalore buns and more) They are yummy, I say… 🙂
In addition, I also threw all caution to the wind and tried unconventional things and learnt to swim and did marathons(5K) much later after the surgery.
It was all in all a productive decade with a major lesson – when life just throws you around, you have to be patient and persistent and stand through all the storms to get what you want!
Thanks for getting this far and hearing me out!! 🙂
Have a wonderful day!! 🙂
This post if a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organized by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The Box, Wedding Clap, The Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee