I thought I was done with writing about India and US but I was watching a Tamil movie ‘Achamundu Achamundu’ yesterday and all my thoughts coherently aligned yet again for another reality post!! 🙂
- Loneliness is a huge killer for Indian families in the USA…especially, women. If you are neither a student nor are working, loneliness will grab you in her arms and never let go of you!! 😦 If you live in a cold place like Detroit, Minneapolis, Boston, Chicago -you can be certain you will be in her arms at least once in your time there.
- Most women who are neither working nor studying, will end up making friends in the local library, school, college, parks or other social gatherings.
- Friends will be the real social strength for immigrants in the USA. Anybody from India, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, Bangladesh and any/all Asian countries – we become extremely attached to them because of our common culture! 🙂
- Social gatherings like weddings, engagements, pre-engagements, baby showers, baby arrival gatherings and more will come and go in India and you will be cut-off from them. You will see them in all probability only when the child goes to kindergarten or beyond…
- You will really not see many people outside walking on the streets like in India.You will definitely see cars, cars and more cars…
6. Doing laundry everyday is really not the norm in the USA. It is something that visiting parents and in-laws will find difficulty adjusting to.
7. And if your apartment, has a common laundromat – be prepared to carry your clothes to the laundromat…(don’t we miss the maids in India?!! :))
8. Most families will not get the newspaper in paper format either. Again that is a fact that many visiting parents and in-laws have to get adjusted to.
9. If you get to visit the USA as a student, finances will be absolutely tight. You will be trying to prove yourself as a good student and you have to manage all the finances all alone for the first time in your life too. This is probably the toughest path for an immigrant and the most satisfying one too. You will enjoy the American system of education which is fundamentally different from the Indian system.
10. One eye or rather both eyes will keep track of every movement in India too!! 🙂 Who has won the election, what is the trend in women’s fashion world(for women), what are the children of India studying currently – might be some thoughts that are constantly whizzing through us – this is also the way to keep in touch with our motherland…
11. If you have decided to settle in the USA, you will be visiting India more than 2-3 times a year for different reasons and excuses!! 😉
Read the first part of ‘Realities of life in the USA’ here…have I missed any other realities?