India, Musings

My Thoughts, My Way!

My new e-book on Amazon is here! πŸ™‚ Do read the book and drop a review…

Here are some reviews for my book:

I enjoyed reading the book majorly due to the thought provoking ideas Which also had me clinched to it throughout. ….

After reading this book, I must say that I have enjoyed reading the author’s thoughts. I got to know about America, why Tamilians have no last names, and that there are more people who can’t decide between an Idly or a Dosa :D. My recommendation for everyone is to dive deep in these thoughts with the author’s creation that is β€œMy Thoughts My Way”

– RightPurchasing(http://www.rightpurchasing.com/my-thoughts-my-way/)

…..this is a personal account of life experiences that the Author has shared with the readers. She had been to the US for fourteen years and gives a first hand account as to how life slowly changes around us and in many places she has compared the life in both the countriesΒ Β 

Her thoughts are very simple yet strike a chord because of the relevance of the topic. For ex topics like the debate between ICSE & CBSE or start ups in India or the bond between mother,daughter, father and son might seem very normal and trivial. Β But I really enjoyed seeing it through the eyes of the Author.Β 

– Chinmayee (https://chinmayeecreations.wordpress.com/2020/06/22/book-review-13-my-thoughts-my-way/)

Looking forward to great reviews!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

college, exams, IIT, India

Ist year at IIT Roorkee

And just like that the first year at IIT Roorkee is over. For those of you who don’t know me might think I am studying at IIT, Roorkee( I wish, I was though πŸ™‚ :)) … but that is not the case, it is my son who is doing his B.Tech at IIT Roorkee!!

It has been quite an amazing ride to be a parent and watch your child compete and clear one of the most toughest competitive exams in India! It was just 1 year back that we heard the news that he had cleared the JEE advanced and we were busy selecting the college after various rounds. We finally locked our college selection at the 3rd round with IIT, Roorkee(though if we had waited for a few more rounds, he might have got into IIT, Delhi which is ranked higher)

IIT, Roorkee:

I have never lived above the latitude of Mumbai in India and the son had never moved anywhere apart from our beautiful southern states in India. We were curious about the new North Indian adventure and how life would treat us/him.

Roorkee is a small and simple town(from my first impression) located about 3 hours from Dehradun. As I have already written in an earlier post, IIT, Roorkee is one of the oldest educational institutions in India. Being an old institution, guarantees that everything is settled and everything is in its place. Professors know how to conduct classes, they know the student mindset very well and most of the things move like clock work. Life as with any undergraduate course work is hectic and students are always kept on their toes.

We initially thought crossing the geographical distance from Bangalore to Roorkee was painful. We didn’t know the correct path to arrive at Roorkee – but who is a better teacher than experience, right? After 2 or 3 times of travelling, we knew the correct flight/train/bus to take from our origin to destination.

Academics:

Now, like I have already said those IIT kids are total “brain boxes”. The sheer intelligence of kids(can I call them “kids” at 18 or 19 years of age? :)) blows you away. If we think we are smart in an IIT, there is always somebody smarter than us!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ The Computer Science kids in IITs are just mind bogglingly brilliant .. there is no doubt there(of course, smart kids doesn’t mean immune to the disasters of life!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Of course, with that kind of immense competition also comes stress. To handle that kind of stress and increasing number of suicides in IITs, IIT, Roorkee has come up with its own “Wellness center”. The first year in college is always a tough time for kids and parents to adjust. It is the first time that kids are leaving their nest and it is the first time that parents are letting go.

IInd semester:

Just as we were warming up to Roorkee and were happy to see the son getting settled in his second semester, the pandemic struck! 😦 Luckily, the son was home by then- but the question now for colleges in India was how to complete the second semester. Online mode of education was tried but it was difficult to achieve it completely since students in IITs are from remote corners of India where basic power and Internet problems persist.

Even as it looked( and it still does) more and more bleak for colleges in India to reopen due to the pandemic, it was finally decided to wrap up the current semester through various grading means. The semester has finally been completed and first year at IIT, Roorkee for the son is done! πŸ™‚ (it was quite a bummer that it couldn’t be completed in the traditional way, but we have to have to bow down to the pandemic rules, right?)

Some tidbits about IITs:

  1. There are many economically challenged children who make use of the education at IIT and that is always heartening to see
  2. In IIT, Roorkee, all students get a single room from the second year
  3. Some students get a single room in the first year too
  4. Many students have their own YouTube channel which flourishes
  5. Many write technically awesome content on ‘Medium’ and more
  6. And many students do feel the academic pressure in IITs and will get lower scores
  7. And unlike private colleges, we have to clean our room on our own! There are no maids to sweep and dust our room! πŸ™‚

Here’s to looking forward to a better 2020!! πŸ™‚

Note: All these are a mother’s perception alone – a child/students’s perception might be different…

Food, India, Musings

How do you manage?

She was set to cook for the day. As usual, the same thoughts were running through her head. What will she make for breakfast, lunch and dinner today? As with most women and mothers, it was the same perplexing question everyday and it was the same puzzle every morning. If she didn’t have the mind map for the food menu for the upcoming week.. it was a much more exhausting time in the kitchen.

What to cook? What to cook? was the thought that was constantly running through her head again that morning too.

She was amazed by the gazillions of drool worthy Instagram food pics and YouTube videos but could never make one such video or post! She was unfortunately one of the few people, who could never cook with that kind of passion or skill. She was amazed at the whole world’s culinary skills too. Her idea of kitchen was to be in and out of the kitchen ASAP!!

Kitchen shortcuts:

Being in the US for a long time taught her a lot of kitchen hacks. For all the glamour of staying in the US, there was/is no maid and no cook in the US – only machines and kitchen hacks rescued her.

Anything that was a paste or powder was welcomed by her!! :)(call it lazy or taking shortcuts, that is the way she was!! :))

For Tamarind rice – get the powder or paste

For Pasta sauce – get the sauce from store

For all the variety of biriyanis – just use the store bought biriyani powder

For garam masala and other powders – don’t go nuts making them all at home – just use the store bought ones!! πŸ™‚

Ginger garlic paste – just buy from store

Small onions are supposed to add an awesome taste to South Indian dishes. But peeling them and dicing them was another work altogether. Her idea of working with the cumbersome products such as small onions was to avoid them altogether and stick with big onions entirely!! πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰ ( and hers was quite an understanding family except for one member whom she had to cajole every now and then!! :))

Now, being from a Tamil family(a state in South India) there was always one magic ingredient that was needed in everyday cooking. Families from South India couldn’t imagine cooking without this lovely ingredient. Most families except for hers used this produce lavishly in their everyday cooking!! πŸ™‚ And most in South India cannot bear to think of any shortcuts with this produce either – it had to be extracted from scratch and used. Chutneys, gravies and almost every dish on the table needed this product.

What was this magical ingredient, you may wonder or some of you may have guessed it as well… but of course, it is the ever trending COCONUT!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

COCONUT:

Families, in South India go through an average of 3-4 coconuts per week and this is just an average…many families may consume more!! Now, coconut breaking and scraping is not very easy for the amateur. With time, one acquires the skill to do it fast and with finesse. It is definitely quite a ritual for most families from Southern states to start the day with breaking and scraping the coconut. It then makes its way into different dishes to create an absolutely magical concoction!! πŸ™‚

Most families cannot even think of a dish without this ingredient. Now, how does the lady in our story manage the star ingredient in her house? πŸ™‚ It is just simple – she avoids it altogether for as long as possible and thinks of innovative ways to manage the kitchen without it!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

She had enough cooking ideas which enabled her to procure the coconut for only one day a week!! (can her Tamilian friends imagine that?!! :)) She had always been asked how she manages without the magical coconut in everyday cooking and she would only respond with a smile…and rattle off her secret recipes without involving coconut πŸ™‚ – all the rice varieties, pasta, noodles, tomato chutney, sambhar and more. Believe me, there are plenty of recipes in the South Indian domain that do not need the humble coconut!! πŸ™‚

So, what do you think? How many coconuts do you need on an average per week? Can you manage without it? Can you give some more kitchen hacks for this lady to reduce her time in the kitchen so that she can write more? πŸ™‚

Β Culnilarly yours πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

college, exams, Musings

2009 – 2019 – A #decade of persistence and perseverance

Whew! A decade went by? I am so glad it got over finally!! Don’t get me wrong – it wasn’t all bad except for the beginning…but good to move along right?

So, what did I accomplish this decade? We moved to India after a long US stint(any move is hard but this was especially hard), I completed my Master’s degree after a long gap in education, I learnt to swim, I started writing, I made tons and tons of new friends, had umpteen number of social gatherings, made numerous remote and warm business relationships, did three mini marathons(more like walkathons!! :)) , ate out like there was no tomorrow πŸ™‚Β  and laughed and laughed…. πŸ™‚ …ALL IN THE PAST DECADE!!

Maybe the thing that really stood out, was trying to complete my Master’s degree with two kids in the past decade…and here goes that story…

Why was it so rough initially?

The initial part of the past decade had nasty surprises in store for me… No, I did not step into motherhood in that decade(I already two young children), nor did I have a new job either….but I had the desire to do something crazy – I wanted a Masters degree !! πŸ™‚ Now, most Indian wives in the US do their Master’s degree just as they arrive in the US… but , I decided to do it when we were planning to move away from the country with 2 small kidsΒ  !! πŸ˜‰ (in 2009)

Note: If you don’t entirely know me or a bit of my personal life, here goes… – I lived in the US for 14 years post marriage and returned to India for good. My US-India stories are chronicled in this ebook…do give it a read..

There were always thoughts as to “Why is she doing her Master’s degree now, after 2 children?” and more, but I don’t think I cared much… πŸ™‚ I needed to do it and I started it right away…

It is not easy to be a stay at home mom and do a degree(or any work from home for that matter) The US course work keeps you on your toes all the time. The assignments were quite mind boggling and very, very different from the Indian style of education. I had to complete “this” assignment by 12 a.m. and I had to complete “that” assignment by 12:00 p.m. and so on… there were tests, quizzes, papers and massive projects to be completed.Β  I enjoyed every bit of it and tried to get an ‘A’ in every subject! πŸ™‚ Those ‘A’s are tough to get… πŸ˜‰ Just a slight slip in one of your assignments, and there…………away went my ‘A’!!

As long as I did one course per semester, things were in control…but once, I did 2 courses per semester – I had to multi-task like a mad mom!! πŸ™‚ ( and with no maid and family help in the US , things do get totally crazy :()

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The good thing about my college was that there were many courses which were entirely online and only for some classes I had to meet in person. I drove in the rain and snow for my classes because I really loved it and learnt so much. This was also the time, I discovered a new passion in the subjects that I studied – Information security!! Now, just as a FYI – Information security was a brand new subject even in the US in 2009 and I lapped it up with full gusto!! πŸ™‚

September 2009:

In the middle of one of my semesters, I had a nasty accident for which I had toΒ  compulsorily have a foot surgery!! 😦 What did that leave me with? I needed to be in a foot cast for close to 4 weeks and even walking was a chore with those crutches – and driving and travelling distances was next to unthinkable…(and no Uber then)

I had already paid for the courses for that semester and if I had to quit, I would lose all my money(close to 3000$!!) and all my work would go waste too…

So, what happened then? I sat the very next day after the surgery in front of the computer(with cast and crutches) and started doing my assignments and trudged along till the end of November by working on my courses online, when the semester ended. I did have complete support that semester from all my Professors and college! (thanks to every one of them!! :))

So, degree over? Nope – not quite… there were other health concerns as well and it was quite an emotional roller coaster ride for close to 9 months after that.When, things start going hay way when you are close to graduating with just four courses to complete, you are completely at your wits end(and I had already put in close to $15,000 for my coursework till then !!)

July 2010:

All well? Yes, almost…. but we returned to India for good in July 2010 and I still had two more subjects to complete to get my Master’s degree!! (luckily, both were online)

So, did I complete it finally? Yes, I did…..Β  finally in March 2011, I completed all the course work and got my degree!! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

As you scroll through the story or skim through it, you might or might not be able to realize that there were many points in my degree where it looked very bleak – if I will be able to complete my degree. After all, the common retort might always be

“Why do you need to complete it now?”

But complete it, I had to…and I do have to thank my better half and all my Professors and most importantly the divine power who enabled me to complete it and realize my dream!! πŸ™‚

Rest of the decade:

For the rest of the decade we dove straight into Indian life after having lived away for 14 years. I learnt to drive in Indian traffic conditions, and learnt to manage a geared vehicle after a long time.

It was also a decade in whichΒ  I tried ethnic Karnataka cuisine (holige, ragi mudde, Maddur vada, Jolada Roti, Mangalore buns and more) They are yummy, I say… πŸ™‚

In addition, I also threw all caution to the wind and tried unconventional things and learnt to swim and did marathons(5K) much later after the surgery.

It was all in all a productive decade with a major lesson – when life just throws you around, you have to be patient and persistent and stand through all the storms to get what you want!

Thanks for getting this far and hearing me out!! πŸ™‚

Have a wonderful day!! πŸ™‚

Jayanthi

This post if a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organized by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The Box, Wedding Clap, The Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee

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IIT, India

IIT myths and realities:

  1. You know the headlines that scream 1.54 crores for an IITian? Well, that is a reality for only a miniscule number of IITians and it is an international offer and definitely not all get it.Β  The average IITians salary range is 11 lakhs per annum which is still 140% higher than other engineering colleges in India…(Source: https://qz.com/india/1329635/grads-of-top-iits-and-iims-earn-over-twice-more-than-their-peers/)
  2. Those IIT kids are brain boxes – that is a reality that can never be a myth! In a school environment there are always kids from different academic calibre – but here there is only one calibre – the best of best! (now, there will be brainy and smart kids elsewhere in other colleges too – but they may not all be together like this)library-438389_1920
  3. Did you know that the IITs offer financial assistance by offering amazing scholarships to the absolutely needy students? This is one way of uplifting India’s needy and enabling them to reach the upper strata of society. If the income of parents is below 1 lakh/year, then the students will be eligible for complete fee waiver!! Yes, you read that right – there is absolutely no fees at all!! πŸ™‚ In addition, if the income of parents is between 1 lakh and 5 lakh/per year, then those students have to pay only 2/3 of the tuition fees. In addition there are many other waivers for SC/ST and PH(physically handicapped) students. Isn’t it amazing to hear about all these fee waivers and the ways to uplift the economically challenged sections of the society? πŸ™‚
  4. Rote learning – India’s hyped system of education in many movies ceases to exist in the IITs(that ceases to exist even after 11th grade) You are constantly bombarded with a lot of assignments and now you have to think, analyze and crack the assignments with a lot of time management!
  5. Competitiveness is extremely high. Nobody is going to be sharing assignments, notes and helping you with all your doubts in all probabilities! πŸ™‚
  6. Many IITs have young faculty who are in their 30s!! (Young India, problem!! :)) For example, in IIT Dharwad, the average faculty age is only 33.9 years!! (Source: https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bengaluru/younger-teachers-replace-grey-haired-professors-at-iits-iims/articleshow/70986008.cms) What does this mean for the students? Students and Professors are at par and there is always an influx of fresh and brand new ideas!!
  7. Mental health is always on the forefront and counselors regularly conduct sessions in the IITs if any student needs them.

These are some of the myths and realities after my son’s first semester at IIT…I am sure there will be plenty more for me to blog about in the coming months! πŸ™‚

Note: If you would like to read about our IIT journey and other posts, start with this post followed by these:

IIT – A Mother’s perspective!!

IITs and their branches

The most sought after branch in an IIT/engg college…

Hope you learnt something new from all these posts and have a delightful day!! πŸ™‚

 

Family, India

Career or Children?

” Career or Children?” is the eternal question that stumps moms all the world and the answer is never easy…

Most moms as young girls were always motivated to do well academically in school and college and achieve greater corporate goals. Eventually, school life gets over, college life gets over and many ace everything and a dream career begins….All goes well and with good time, matrimony arrives and then motherhood dawns.

Motherhood:

If a marriage doesn’t change a woman’s life drastically, motherhood will. Understanding parenthood for anybody is no easy task. Many children have a personality that is totally the polar opposite of their parents! While moms and dads fret over how to handle the new addition to their lives, mothers feel more responsibility towards the child ( and the society always emphasizes this) and therein starts the trouble.

The dilemma:

Most women opt for a maternity break that might span a few weeks or months post the arrival of the child in their career. While fathers return back promptly, most mothers struggle with the decision to get back to work full time.

Even after the child is 6 months of age, while some mothers do return back to their jobs, there are many mothers who are still on the fence about whether to return back to work or not. Many mothers areΒ  “worry warriors” – who are never sure whether their child will get the same care that they can give.

Weeks turn into months and sometimes even years pass by and some women are faced with the same dilemma – “Should I get back to work and hope everything falls into place or should I wait for more time till the child is older?” And sometimes, the child crosses their teenage and moms are still pondering the same question!! πŸ™‚

By this time many mothers lose the interest and energy to get back to work full time… 😦 Some mothers even return back to work and again quit because of “mom guilt” or any other misadventures.. 😦

And if there is more one child in the picture, the responsibilities quadrupule. While most women multi-task a variety of responsibilities – it is still a big juggling act to manage work, home,children, parents, in-laws and all family! πŸ™‚ (and if you are in a nuclear family living away from everybody, then the difficulty is to manage everything on your own) In addition to normal household functions, there are also sick children, homework, class tests, exams, projects and even more responsibilities that add everyday.

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Many women quit their high flying careers entirely or change course from their field of study. For example, as a young girl she might be a Computer Science graduate or an MBA – but due to motherhood and home responsibilities – she might become a teacher(so that she can step out with the kids and step back in with the kids) or a writer(can write from home!!) πŸ™‚ Many mothers readΒ  job description with keywords such as “work from home” , “flexible work options”,”remote work” and they are absolutely delighted! πŸ™‚

This is not to say all mothers put their careers on hold when motherhood arrives..many juggle home and full time work very well and hats off to all of them! πŸ™‚

My experience:

Overall, I think if you wait too long to get back to full time work, most lose the energy and the motivation for the corporate grind. So, for women who are very passionate about their careers, it is just good to restart full time work after just a year of being off….(more feasible in India) – anything more than that – the industry is also moving ahead and we also cannot keep up!

In the end, it all works out well with a little crease here and there… πŸ™‚

So, if you like to work – just keep doing it! πŸ™‚

Thanks for reading and have a lovely day! πŸ™‚

 

college, IIT, India

India and startups!

As we moved back to India 9 years ago after a long US stay – there was another thing that caught my eye in the Indian business scene. It was not prevalent in India when I moved abroad in the 90s. It was also a very silent and slow progression which could easily be missed. But if you stay in India for sometime and observe it – you will definitely see theΒ  revolution! It was an amazing revolution that produced new ideas and great businesses!Β  What was it?

It was the ‘startup’ revolution in India…

Dinosaur era:

As one of my fellow bloggers would say, we are all engineers from the “dinosaur” era of coding!! πŸ™‚ We have worked through all the ancient programming languages that you might have not even heard of…. πŸ™‚ (‘C’, ‘Pascal’, ‘Fortran’, ‘Lotus 1-2-3’ and ending with ‘Java’ for me!) All we wanted to do in those days was to land a plum software job that paid well. I think most of us or all of us achieved that dream at one point or other.

With many of us moving abroad, our career dreams were restricted to our visas. Either we could work only for the companies that sponsored our visas(H1) or we were on dependent visas that didn’t give us the eligibility to work.

The thought that we could ‘start’ our own company might have never, ever crossed our minds in the US(at least it didn’t cross our minds) And if it did, we sure had to wait to get our GCs(green cards) or Citizenships along with good financial backup to start our company. This would have definitely got us into our 40s or so…Amongst, the many of my engineering classmates only a few started a company of their own and none of us Computer Science majors did! (sorry, 89BZs of PSG Tech!!)

The current day in India:

Today’s young India is eager to start a company of their own and fly solo as soon as possible! They are not scared of taking the risks that come with entrepreneurship. As I look at the engineering scene in India(from my son’s college) – most take a dive into entrepreneurship right after a few years of corporate experience. This feels so exhilarating and fascinating! Being your own boss and creating a completely new business model which flourishes must be totally exciting and rewarding!

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Did you know?

  1. The median age of young startup founders in India is 31?
  2. After the Startup initiative was announced in 2016, India has seen 23,705 startups?

Here are a few startups:

Many startups have surely touched my life and made it easier… here are some of them:

  1. Swiggy – Food delivery giant ‘Swiggy’ does not own any restaurants but just felicitates interactions between users and restaurants and is a clear winner. It was started only in late 2014 by BITS alumni and IIT Kharagpur alumni.
  2. Practo – Online health portal which was established in 2008 by then 20 year old engineering graduates allows users to make appointments and make online consultations.
  3. Cure.Fit – Health, Fitness and nutrition are all rolled into Cure.Fit which started its operations in 2016
  4. RazorPay – is a Payment processing firm which was founded by IIT Roorkee alumni
  5. FlipKart – the very popular e-commerce firm founded by IIT Delhi alumni in 2007

There are several other successful startups like Ola, FreshMenu, FreshToHome, Paytm, Zomato,Wow!Momo,BigBasket, Myntra, Housejoy and many, many more…

I am sure young India will churn out many,many new companies in the future…and I admire all their families, friends and co-workers to stand by them as they go about creating history!

Cheers to the brave, young entrepreneurs!

 

 

IIT, India

The most sought after branch in an IIT/engg college…

….is after all these years, “Computer Science”!! πŸ™‚ I can hear many of my friends from college, old colleagues, family, friends and others cringe at this thought – but it is true – “Computer Science” or its variants like “Electrical”, “Electronics” still rule the technical world.

I have heard so many people who are already in the Computer Science field(for about 25 years or so) that they might not prefer their children to be in the same field – for varying reasons like long work hours, instant layoffs, stiff competition, extreme stress, total burnout and more. But truth be told, “Computer Science” has in fact grown tremendously in the last 20-30 years giving rise to amazing job opportunities and salaries for many.

Earlier, there were only programming languages(like ‘C’, ‘Pascal’, ‘Fortran’) to be learnt in Computer Science field but now there are several other branches to it. Cyber security, Android programming, Artificial Intelligence, Machine learning and many other paths have spawned because of the Internet revolution, smartphone revolution, online shopping and many other necessities of life. The Computer Science field is also guaranteed to grow more giving rise to totally new concepts.

In fact, every branch of engineering needs knowledge of Computer Science and some basic hacks and cracks to master it. The current era demands every professional to be technically savvy.

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Other branches:

The core branches like Mechanical, Civil are not going away anywhere – because one cannot work on a computer with no roof built by a Civil engineer over their head and an automobile to make them mobile!

But many students who do the core branches most likely branch out into Computer Science eventually for better job opportunities. Only a few of them remain in the core branches (like my better half :)) (at least from what I have seen) since they are extremely passionate about it.

Do the non-Computer Science branches offer the same number of job opportunities and salaries as the Computer Science branch?Β  My better half would say “yes” πŸ™‚ but I cannot say for sure.

Though, most people from the non-CS branches get placed well initially, the career mobility might be restricted to a few companies down the line. And if you are extremely specialized, your job opportunities will reduce even further! In such cases, when there are few companies to switch – consider the case, when you are dissatisfied with your current organization –Β  What do you do? You search for companies to move to and you only find a handful of them(!) making it even more frustrating!! Now, this is not going to be case for all non-CS people, but it is just a possibility…

What are your thoughts? Is the rush for Computer Science validated? Or not?

And if you have been in the Computer Science field for quite a while – are you happy? Will you encourage your child to go into the same field? Why or Why not?

Have a lovely day! πŸ™‚

 

 

Technology

Whatsapp groups – boon or bane?

Really, how many groups do you have on your smartphone? 2,5,10, 15, 20? πŸ™‚Β  Can we live without them today? In India we can’t… πŸ™‚ Whatsapp apparently has completed 10 years of its existence – but I have known it only for the past few years or so…

‘Whatsapp’ needs no introduction,Β  but if anybody in the technically connected world still does not know ‘Whatsapp’Β  – it is a free app for sending and receiving messages and videos. We can also form groups for various purposes. Wikipedia describes Whatsapp as ”Β a freeware, cross-platform messaging and Voice over IP service owned by Facebook. It allows users to send text messages and voice messages, make voice and video calls, and share images, documents, user locations, and other media’

Boon:

Quite a while back when we were in the US, communicating with our parents and loved ones in India used to be an expensive exercise – with International rates going all the way to 1$/min(or more!) . We could call only once every 2 weeks and that too the call had to be short and to the point!

Fast forward 20 years later, communication has improved tremendously and we are ever thankful for it. A variety of tools have appeared and have putΒ  our life at ease and we can talk with anyone across the globe without shelling out a fortune. News can be shared instantaneously all over the globe at no cost at all!! Calls to India from USA, calls to USA from India and many other places around the world have become easy -peasy.

Sharing pictures, videos has also become easier and we share plenty with family and friends through Whatsapp in a much more safer way.

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There are amazing number of Whatsapp groups that develop on my phone every few minutes or seconds(yes, I am exaggerating a bit here… πŸ™‚ – but you get the point… there are family groups, friends groups, birthday groups, class groups and more and more…. School groups, college groups , latest friends groups, past friends groups and if you have kids – there are groups for them too!! Being a social person, I love every body in all my groups … πŸ™‚ but….

Bane:

It is quite an irony that we were craving for better communication even 5 years back – and now that we have achieved that… I wonder if allΒ  the communication is worth it? Did all of the groups solve all our communication needs or are we just talking more and more and remaining at the same question in the conversation?

Sometimes, the groups also grow very fast and too many of them sit without any activity on my phone. I compulsorily have had to quit many of them – either due to excessive activity or lack of activity. What do you do to handle the groups and the different conversations with so many people? Do you patiently read all the messages or do you feel overwhelmed and quit it right away?

My wish:

  1. I think like Facebook and other social media platforms, it would be good if the person’s consent is asked before adding a person to a Whatsapp group!
  2. What if each Whatsapp group had a lock? πŸ™‚
  3. What if some of the messages in Whatsapp can be made “unforwardable”? This would definitely reduce the spread of fake news….

Let’s see if any of my wishes gets implemented any day… πŸ™‚

In the mean time,Β what do you feel about the various Whatsapp groups? Do they overwhelm you or do you love them and cannot imagine a life without them? πŸ™‚

IIT, India, Musings

IIT-R life!

“I may be an IITian, but my mom is the real GENIUS!!”:)Β 

goes a saying on a mug at the IIT-R souvenir shop…:) Now, that IITs themselves recognize moms,Β let us dive into more of this mom’s IIT-R tales!!

With the son living in IIT-R for almost a month now, it is time to recollect some more of my experiences at IIT-R and the small things that I really loved about my short stint there!! πŸ™‚

The subjects:

  1. Most first year students have a set of common subjects(as in most Engineering colleges – Math, Communication skills)
  2. The lovely part is they have a paper on ‘psychology’ (yes, engineering students have to study ‘psychology’ πŸ™‚ ) After all, most of us know that work life is not only about technical skillsΒ  – there are people skills and relationship skills that are needed to manage the work space too – so in my opinion good to study psychology!! πŸ™‚ though the students themselves might not be too happy studying it!!)
  3. Remember the IIT entrance exams do not test you on English? Well, the English testing is done once you join college and eventually there is a paper that is ‘Communication skills(basic)’ or ‘Communication skills'(advanced) in the first semester
  4. In addition, they are compulsorily expected to take one extra curricular activity( either a sport, Taek-wondo or NSS) which is also something that I liked. It is good to keep the students busy with sporting activities so that no one remains idle and gets into mischief! πŸ™‚Β  Making it compulsory is even better according to me!! πŸ™‚
  5. Mental health was seriously talked about in the orientation. If anybody was depressed or stressed they were urged to talk to the health counsellors right away!!(very nice!!)

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IIT-R lingo!! πŸ™‚

I remember we had so many words and code words for so many things in my engineering college and hostel too!! It was easy and fun to use them as well…

Now, coming to the lingo that is used at IIT-R, some of it has English and Hindi mix which is easier to understand. The other totally slang Hindi ones are totally beyond us!! Anyways, I am confident that the son will learn it all and enlighten me too, by the end of his degree…:)

At the beginning of the semester, all students got a ‘Campus dictionary'(forwarded) pdf file which listed all the code words used in IIT-R(which might be common to all IITs as well) Many of my North Indian friends might be able to decipher most or all of them… can you see which ones you can understand?

  1. Kholu
  2. Gaaon
  3. Bakchodi
  4. Chapo
  5. Ghissu
  6. Dulla
  7. Chaggi
  8. Despo
  9. Fachche
  10. Haddu

There are still more… can you find the answers to these?! πŸ™‚

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  1. ‘Kholu’ is the person whose AIR opens the branch(“Branch ka kholu kaun hai?” is a popular question πŸ™‚ :))
  2. ‘Gaaon'(village) – is the area of ‘bhawans’ that is supposedly far from the main campus area and characterized by less interference with major campus affairs
  3. Bakchodi – Gossips with no conclusion, apparently!! πŸ™‚
  4. Chapo – shortened form of “Chai Pakoda” which means a treat or party
  5. Ghissu – are students with high CGPA and no social life!!
  6. Dulla – are dual degree students
  7. Chaggi – are students with light minded approach and a CGPA around 6
  8. Despo – obviously meaning, desperate!!
  9. Fachche – is an enthusiastic fresher!!
  10. Haddu – Delhiites calling people from Hyderabad or South India!!

I have learnt a lot today – reading this and writing about this.. did you? I almost feel I am in college again… πŸ™‚

 

 

 

 

college, India

IIT- A Mothers perspective

In our IIT saga, based on the feedback and our own research, we were looking to get our son into one of the older IITs + IIT Hyderabad. For the uninitiated, the older IITs are IIT-Madras, IIT-Delhi, IIT-Bombay, IIT – Roorkee, IIT – Guwahati, IIT- Kharagpur and IIT – Kanpur. In addition we also considered IIT – Hyderabad which is a newer IIT but since it was getting a lot of positive feedback, we considered that as well.

Roorkee:

After the son got admitted into one of the oldest IIT(IIT-R), travelling and visiting the son to that part of India has been a pleasure! Roorkee is a little place in the Indian state of Uttarakhand. It is known for IIT, the army, the pure air and generous water! The river Ganga flows and flows…all over… Actually, it was quite amazing to see so much of free flowing water. The southern states of India almost always gasp for water(before all the current floods) Water tankers are a common sight in cities like Bengaluru and Chennai. And it was a pleasure to see that there was no necessity of water tankers in IIT Roorkee!

The Hindi language also flows and flows…The son had actually never heard so much of Hindi even though our place in Bengaluru is also predominantly Hindi speaking.

Life seems to be slow paced in Roorkee and it is nice to know that nobody is rushing anywhere to catch anything!! (The driver driving at 60 kmph on an empty road was really puzzling to me – why not go at a 100 kmph on an empty road was my Bengaluruean thought ;))Β  In a city like Bengaluru we try to do the reverse – we try to do 100 kmph in a totally jammed and crammed zone!!

IIT- Roorkee:

IIT – Roorkee is one of oldest engineering institutions in India. It was established in 1847(yes!) by Sir James Thomason and it was originally known as ‘University of Roorkee and Thomason College of Civil Engineering’.Β  The main building in IIT -Roorkee is known as ‘The James Thomason building” and still hosts many Professors rooms. The James Thomason building is the single most important building in IIT Roorkee. It has been maintained excellently and the architecture still looks amazing. The tiles in the James Thomason building reminded me of the tiles in my maternal grandparents place.

The green lawn in front of the building is manually maintained very well. The foyer has high ceilings and the entry way displays proficiency certificates in both academic and sports fields dating back to 1858!!

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IIT – Roorkee has 21 departments covering Engineering, Applied sciences, Humanities, Management and more. The campus area sprawls over 365 acres which is huge. The infrastructure is awesome and all the faculty have adequate educational qualifications( Ph.Ds) to teach students. All faculty information is up online and we can see all their qualifications and experience.

Students use bicycles to move from building to building and there are a lot of them! All students are toppers in their own school/zone and it is a battle of the brightest of the brightest minds in the country!

In addition, to bicycles, there are also e-rickshaws that ply within the campus. These e-rickshaws take up to 5 passengers per trip and all it costs is 10 Rs/person to travel from any location to any other location within the campus!! (just imagine!!)

Another thing that actually struck me was the cost of living in IIT Roorkee or Roorkee for that matter. The cost of living in IIT-Roorkee or outside the campus is extremely cheap compared to a city like Bengaluru(40 Rs/haircut , ‘Coffee day’ stuff available for half the price in Bengaluru)

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Two banks operate within the campus for the benefit of students. Barber shops, stationary shops, juice shops all pepper the bhawans. The campus is kept immaculately clean.

There are no power problems – if at all – they are extremely minimal.

There is also very nice Saraswathi temple, mosque and a church within the campus.

The campus also boasts of badminton courts, a good gym, a mega swimming pool, table tennis courts, tennis courts and more sporting activities. Since IIT Roorkee is in foothills of the Himalayas – there is also a ‘Himalayan explorers club’ for the adventurous(sounds fascinating isn’t it?)

It was also nice to see mental health being spoken openly at the orientation and students are always asked to come up and talk if they feel stressed or depressed(after all, most 1st year students are staying away from their cozy home for the first time in their lives)

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Hostels:

The hostels in IIT-R are known as “bhawans”. Each bhawan feels like a separate apartment complex! The rooms are old but decently maintained. Washing machines, geysers are also present to enable the transition from home to hostel easier(again, this is the first time that most students are doing the washing and other stuff on their own)

There are 2 students in a room or some get single rooms too. ‘Coffee Day’, ‘Subway’ are two new additions to keep the hostelites taste buds happy.

First year students get allotted rooms based on their AIR rank(yes!) and that is the only talk of JEE advanced rank. After that it is open competition for all.

As a mother, the college is awesome and the faculty have amazing experience and educational qualifications and the whole IIT experience is easily affordable too.Β  Now it is up to the son to adjust and figure the whole thing out!! πŸ™‚

India, Musings

IITs and their branches

Before my son entered IIT, we were doing a lot of research on the various IITs and their branches. While the choice of IITs was relatively simpler, the selection of the branch in the different IITs was a whole lot harder. Each IIT had a slightly different set of branches and we had lots and lots of homework to do to understand the whole process better.

We as parents understood the traditional Engineering branches like:

  1. Civil
  2. Mechanical
  3. Electronics and communication
  4. Electrical and Electronics
  5. Computer Science and Engineering
  6. Metallurgy
  7. Textiles
  8. Chemical

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But the IITs boasted of some new branches along with the traditional ones to keep up with the changing trends in technologies. These were the new branches that really made us research more:

  1. Engineering Physics
  2. Data Science engineering
  3. Mathematics and computing
  4. Agricultural and food engineering
  5. Mining engineering
  6. Manufacturing science and engineering
  7. Ocean engineering and Naval architecture
  8. Engineering science
  9. Artificial intelligence
  10. Bioengineering
  11. Biological sciences and Bioengineering
  12. Material science and engineering
  13. Polymer science and engineering
  14. Mineral engineering
  15. Petroleum engineering
  16. Ceramic engineering
  17. Pharmaceutical engineering and technology

Note, that – not all branches are available in all the IITs. For example, as of today, ‘Data science’ is offered only in IIT, Mandi and ‘Artificial Intelligence’ is available only in IIT Hyderabad.

It is also important to note that these are all 4 year B.Tech programs. There are 5 year dual degree and 4 year BS programs as well.

I am sure you are also stumped by the other branches such as “Ceramic engineering”, “Polymer engineering”, ‘Engineering Physics’, ‘Mathematics and Computing’ and many others. Yes, these branches do exist in some of the IITs!! While I haven’t researched the scope of all the branches – we did have to research two branches (‘Engineering Physics’ and ‘Mathematics and Computing’ )since they were close to my son’s line of interest(after Computer Science and other heavily fought traditional branches, which we couldn’t get our hands on)

What were they taught? And what was their scope in the future?

What is Engineering Physics?

From the IIT Bombay website, ‘Engineering Physics’ is “an amalgam of physics, mathematics and electrical engineering courses”. The core courses cover basic areas such as classical and quantum mechanics, electromagnetic theory, photonics, relativity, and thermodynamics along with introductory courses to the various fields.The courses include Mathematical physics, nuclear physics, Quantum physics, laser physics and more.

So, it is Physics, Physics all the way… πŸ™‚

It is offered by IIT – B(Bombay), IIT-M(Madras), IIT-D(Delhi), IIT-R(Roorkee), IIT -G(Guwahati), IIT – H(Hyderabad), IIT – M(Mandi) and IIT – Dhanbad

With so much of Physics in their curriculum, what is the scope of Engineering Physics students in the future? These are a few of my findings:

  1. Students can get placed in industries such as telecom, microelectronics, lasers and micro devices etc. with amazing salaries
  2. They can also get involved in research and development activities in future
  3. They can opt for higher studies in the same line or
  4. They can also choose an entirely new line of interest

What is ‘Mathematics and computing’?

While I was mulling ‘Mathematics and Computing’ branch I found that it is very,very difficult to get into ‘Mathematics and Computing’ branch in the traditional old IITs.

The ‘Mathematics and Computing’ branch is described by IIT Guwahati website as follows:

“The curriculum for this program is designed to meet the need of sophisticated mathematics in modern scientific investigations and technological innovations. The programme has three components: mathematics, computing and financial engineering which are perfectly blended so that the strong mathematical and analytical components that are in-built in the curriculum form the basis on which the technological aspects of computing and finance are developed”.

The MnC(Mathematics and Computing) branch syllabus however is also supposedly different for each IIT. While many IITs focus on Math – some focus on Computer Science concepts too.

MnC is offered byΒ  IIT-D, IIT-G, IIT-Kharagpur, IIT – Dhanbad, IIT – Hyderabad, IIT-BHU – Varanasi, IIT – Ropar and IIT Goa.

Scope of Mathematics and computing:

  1. These students have a bright future in computational careers which involve data science, statistics, machine learning, Artificial intelligence
  2. They can also opt for higher studies
  3. Many of these students have also been hired by companies such as Microsoft, Netapp, Zynga and more

Hope you liked the details of various branches in the IITs and the extra detail about the ‘Engineering physics’ branch and ‘Mathematics and Computing’ branch.

Stay tuned for more of my personal musings! πŸ™‚

exams, India

Our IIT journey!

Even as my son is planning to leave for IIT to join the 2019-2020 academic session , I feel like I have to recite the whole journey to the whole world!! πŸ™‚ Also, the whole IIT preparation drama ceases to exist once the lad enters the hallowed grounds of the precious institution! Here are a few(or a lot of!) of my thoughts on the whole process:

What are the IITs anyways?

India and IITs are synonymous with each other. Ask any parent whose child is in grade five or six in India and their aim is always to get into an IIT. For the uninitiated, IIT is ‘Indian Institute of Technology’ for securing an undergraduate or post-graduate degree in engineering and there are a total of 23 IITs in India today. TheΒ Indian Institutes of TechnologyΒ (IITs) are autonomousΒ publicΒ institutes of higher education(Wikipedia)

There are roughly about 13,376 seats up for grabs in various streams of engineering like Civil, Mechanical, Electrical and more. India’s young students and their parents are always allured by this institution.Β  Competition is fierce and this year about 9.35 lakh candidates competed to get one of the 13,000 seats. The IITs though cannot accomodate everyone, can they? So, what do they do? Have entrance exams that will definitely the raise the stakes and make the students to prepare harder…

The JEE entrance exams:

The JEE or ‘Joint Entrance exams’ are the gateway to the esteemed institution. The JEE(Joint Entrance Exam) has two parts to it. They are the ‘Mains’ and the ‘Advanced’.Β  The JEE tests you only in Math, Physics and Chemistry(which is actually a huge relief for my son – as he is not too fond of any sort of English testing!! ;)) Only once you clear the ‘Mains’ exam – will you be allowed to participate in the advanced exam. As of this year(2019), the ‘Mains’ exam itself was conducted two times – once in January and once in April( and he took the exam both the times!!) There were a few students who scored 100% percentile in the Mains exam! (hats off to them!! :))

The ‘advanced’ exam is probably one of the toughest exams in India today. This year, the ‘advanced’ exam was held in late May. Students start preparing for the JEE exams right from fifth or sixth grade!!(unbelievable, right?)

We started our earnest preparation for the JEE exam only in 11th grade – even though he attended some sort of coaching in 7th and 8th grade too.

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JEE Main and advanced exams:

The JEE Main exam was reasonably easy this year and my son scored an excellent percentile 99.4 percentile but with an AIR of 5922(can you imagine?!!) The JEE advanced exam though was an entirely different matter. It was set by IIT Roorkee and almost everyone was shaken by the paper.

Except for me!! πŸ™‚

Why? My son always prefers harder papers and loves the challenge rather than the easier paper. I knew he would do well in a hard paper and he had brighter chance of entering the IITs! (how odd, know?!!) Finally, the results were declared on June 14th and true to my thinking he had scored very well in his advanced exam with an AIR of 2588.

JoSAA:

Once the advanced marks and ranks are in, the counselling process with JoSAA(Joint Seat Allocation Authority) starts. The whole process is entirely streamlined.Β Seat allotments for the different branches and colleges happens entirely online and with amazing precision. The rules are laid out beautifully and the movement happens perfectly. After going back and forth and dilly dallying on our choice of colleges and branches between the 23 IITs we finally accepted one IIT on Sunday, 7th July 2019.

The IITs give reservation only to the Scheduled castes(SC), Scheduled Tribe(ST), OBC(Other backward classes), EwS(economically weaker sections), physically handicapped and girl candidates. Since the ratio of boys to girls in IITs is very low, there has been extra reservation allotted for girls to enter the prestigious institution(which is a wonderful move, I would say!) IIT Delhi, even had open house exclusively for girls to attract girl talent into the institution.

What is so special about the IIT?

1.First and foremost, the students get to interact with a lot of like minded students which will definitely enhance one’s growth.

2.Β  The students from the best and top IITs get placement offers from international and national companies such as Microsoft, Morgan Stanley, Shell, Honeywell, Google and… you name it and they will be there!Β  The students can get placed at an offer of about 13 lakhs or more.

But of course, not all are going to be placed at that amount and a lot depends on your GPA and other factors.

3. An IIT degree has international recognition.

I am sure there are plenty of other factors but I could think of this only for now…

How much does it cost to study in an IIT?

This is something you will love to hear – it costs roughly about 3 lakhs per year! Now, 3 lakhs/year is actually mind bogglingly cheap from our standpoint(considering that we are in the most expensive part of India!!) This type of education from most international colleges and universities will definitely leave you with a standing student loan…or you would need to figure some other amazing ways to pay for it.

And finally from my son’s own words, the answer toΒ 

“What sets the JEE Advanced apart from other engineering entrance exams?”Β 

  1. Most other engineering entrance exams consist of only a single paper. But as for JEE Advanced, it consists of two papers, each of 3 hours duration!
  2. The format of the JEE Advanced is not fixed, it varies from year to year.
  3. Questions in the JEE Advanced can be of many types, such as multiple choice (single/multiple correct answers), match the following, integer answer type, comprehension (or ‘paragraph’) type, and numerical answer type (correct to two decimal places). Most other entrance exams usually have all questions in the ‘multiple choice single correct’ format.
  4. The questions in JEE Advanced generally require a very deep and proper understanding of the topics, and some may test you on multiple concepts. They also generally take more time to solve.
  5. Because of the difficulty level of the questions, the number of questions in each paper is very small when compared to other entrance exams of similar duration. (For example, each of the two papers in this year’s JEE Advanced had only 54 questions!)
  6. The ‘multiple choice questions with multiple correct answers’ often have a different marking scheme compared to the rest of the questions. For example, in this year’s JEE Advanced, the marking scheme for such questions was as follows:
    1. If ALL the correct answers for a question are selected, and no incorrect answer is selected, 4 marks are awarded.
    2. If some (but not all) correct answers are selected, and no incorrect answers are selected, 1 mark is awarded for EACH correct answer that is selected.
    3. If no answer is selected, no marks are awarded.
    4. If any INCORRECT answer is selected, 1 mark is deducted from the total score.
    5. Example: If the correct answers for a question are A, C and D, then marking A, C, D will result in +4 marks, marking only A results in +1, marking A, C results in +2, but marking A, B, C results in -1.

This is the reason why most Professors and academicians throughout the world take JEE exam paper and analyze it and re-analyze it…

After IIT – life is smooth and easy?

Many of you might remember my IIT/IIM post from a few years back. ‘IIT’ is neither a beginning nor an ending but a great milestone for those who have achieved it.

The life at IIT or the degree obtained from an IIT can only get you up and running initially and have a nice tag behind your name throughout your lifeΒ  – but it cannot immunize you against life’s ups and downs.

Life’s curves can only be handled by a lot of positivity, calmness and divine belief!!

Stay tuned for more on our IIT saga…:)

 

 

 

India, Musings

Realities of life in India!!

Yes, this is another post about the ‘Realities of life in…India’ not ‘USA’… πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ This post is mostly applicable mostly for families, individuals, couples who return after a foreign visit that lasts for 2+ years or more…so here goes…

  1. We are warmly greeted by “Sirs” and “Madams” in our personal and work environments…I was pleasantly thrown off by this sudden respect…(I did not know what to think of it initially – except,”Please,please don’t call me “Mam” – I don’t mind being called by my first name, however older I maybe to you” πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ !!) In India, I had forgotten, if somebody was older to you even by two years, we automatically became “Mam” and “Sir”!! Luckily, most of my remote acquaintances have only called me as “Jayanthi”…
  2. Remember the “loneliness” that I had written about in my US-India posts? There is nothing like that here… we have friends from our school days, friends from our college days and more friends and still more friends and counting…:) And in a city like Bangalore which has a constantly moving population, the friends circle only grows all the time…and no shortage of family too… So, none of the loneliness business – if at all, we are swimming in a sea of humanity all the time which is lovely!!
  3. As I see it, most of us in India do very well financially and personally too…if at all, the only hitch might be too many people trying to influence others decisions. So, anybody going to the US or other foreign countries for better financial prospects – not to worry – life is good here!! πŸ™‚ ( for the middle and upper middle class)
  4. India, as I have observed after my US stay has a highly dependent culture. From the time we are young, children are dependent on parents and later in life, parents are dependent on children(again, no right or wrong here – just prefer the “independent” system so that we don’t stress the relationships around us) Consider these points:

a. In the US, children as young as nine months are taught to feed themselves and by the first year, they are eating independently with no help from parents. Contrast that to the Indian culture, where parents are continuously running behind the children with a bowl and spoon in hand helping them eat!!

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b. This continues to teenage years and beyond. As young teenagers, their Western counterparts are encouraged to step out of the house and start working at restaurants to understand the value of money. Is this even a feasible thought in Indian culture??(Plus,Β  it is absolutely unnecessary too – but there goes our independent thought!!)

c. Parents in the US are also encouraged to start planning for a child’s college education from the time they are born. Working professionals are encouraged to start saving for retirement once they start working, buy a house and finish paying the mortgage by the time they retire. This ensures that the child becomes independent when they enter college. Adults are independent and have enough money and own the house when they retire too!!

I am sure all this is prevalent in India of today – but up to what extent it is being done(or can be done) in India is highly debated…

d. Who can forget the maids, drivers, baby sitters, cooks of India? Every family’s routine relies heavily on the maids of India. We are heavily dependent on them for our daily chores and life is not same even if they are ‘off’ for a day… πŸ˜‰

5. Children grow more naturally and are not confused about which way to go – the Indian way or the Western way or grasp both ways…

6. I cannot resist saying this again – but just the freedom to be able to work or study or do what you to do in life without visa restrictions is indeed a huge blessing! I feel for all the women or spouses on H4 visas(H4 visa holders cannot work) who are languishing their lives abroad with fantastic degrees and not being able to put it to good use…

7. In India, we are not the first to receive the cutting edge tech products(like the latest iPhone or the latest iPad) but it does come to us eventually! πŸ™‚

8. Inter-caste and inter-religion marriages are better accepted now… I cannot imagine such a thing some 20 years ago…

9. India has a much more disciplined and meticulous life. I don’t think I have seen anybody coloring their hair, have interesting hair styles, wear different types of attire to school. Having a school uniform regulates a lot of things for school going kids. Women might try different attires but only in a city like Bangalore or other bigger cities – the smaller tier 1 and tier 2 cities expects women to be fully clad…

10. Engineering and medicine are still the most sought after professions in India! And getting into IIT is still the greatest dream of every Indian parent!!

11. And last but not least, cities like Bangalore, Hyderabad have considerable number ofΒ  children born in the US. These children have returned back to India with their parents and there are plenty of schools that accommodate them. Even colleges have a separate category on their forms for children born abroad – “OCI”!! So it is all not only “brain drain” …the reality is that there are parents who have decided to come to India for goodΒ  and India loves to accommodate these returnees!!

Cheers!

Family, India

Arranged marriages!

“Love marriage” is one way of getting married and there is yet another way of getting married which is highly prevalent in Indian homes and it is known as an “arranged marriage”.

India is so beautifully diverse with its languages(all of the four southern states have a different language) , cultures, religions and climates (If you ask me how diverse India is – I could do an entire blog post on that too!! :)) , but they are all united by one novel way of getting married which is the “arranged marriage”.

What is arranged marriage?

‘Arranged marriage’ is when a boy and girl get married as per the parents and/or grand-parents wishes! πŸ™‚ There is no “getting to know each other phase”, “living together phase”, “seeing each other’s parents phase” – some arranged marriages get completed in a matter of months.

How do the parents know that the “boy” and “girl” are made for each other? πŸ™‚ ( well, that might be for another post ;)) – for now, they just “know” that they are made for each other!! πŸ™‚

Given the complexity of human personalities and the constant change it undergoes with respect to its environment, it is truly amazing that arranged marriages work and continue to work. “Arranged marriage” is in my opinion -one of the most surreal of all relationships! πŸ™‚ Β I don’t know how it works and till this date I try hard to wrap this thought around my head “how two people who have absolutely no clue about each other, each other’s personalities, each other’s habits and most importantly each other’s families are told to spend the rest of their life together and they successfully do! πŸ™‚

Given the huge success rate of arranged marriages, it is a sure bet that this unique and blissful relationship will continue for more years to come!